emysabath:

I never intended to include Chris Brown’s name in one of my tweets to start some sort of a controversy or to gain publicity or anything like that, and now that he’s throwing accusations my way, like using steroids… I feel the need to reply. So please allow me to retort. I’m a lifelong, proud, drug free, straight edge individual, so Chris and I come from two completely different worlds. I don’t have a manager, I don’t have a bodyguard… I don’t need a bodyguard. I don’t have an assistant, I have no need for a PR to tell me what to tweet, or when to tweet. And I don’t hit women. Period. In my world, women are to be revered and respected. And I firmly believe that in this life, there are consequences and repercussions for people’s actions, and I don’t think Chris has payed for what he’s done. Picking up trash on the side of a highway does not make amends for repeatedly striking a woman in the face and sending her to a hospital. So, Chris wants to throw stones my way now and I say that’s fine, but put some gloves on and get in the ring. And I will choke you out, and I will make you feel as weak and as powerless and scared and alone as any woman who has had the misfortune of knowing a sad, cowardly little boy such as yourself, and all proceeds can go to a woman’s shelter of my choosing. If you want to pick up more trash on the side of the highway to make some amends, you should donate more time… maybe tell kids exactly what you did isn’t right. But I’m also a realist, and I know that none of these things will happen because Chris Brown isn’t a man and that’s fine. I just know that someday, somewhere, somehow, somebody will put Chris Brown exactly where he belongs, and it honestly doesn’t have to be me… I would just really like it to be.

(bolding added by me for emphasis)

Ok, this is amazing in dozens of different ways, but the reason I am reblogging this is just so: he is defining manhood in opposition to boyhood rather than in opposition to womanhood. This is crucial. Because it is perfectly fine to define manhood as something good and worthy of aspiring toward, except when we include that womanhood is the opposite of those positive definitions. For example, when ‘manly’ means brave and ‘womanly’ means cowardly.

Here, he is defining manhood as maturity, bravery, and respect for women, and its opposite is boyhood - immaturity, cowardice, and disrespect for women. This is a wonderful definition because it doesn’t exclude women from positive attributes, and it doesn’t encourage rejection of anything viewed as ‘feminine’. Seriously, I cannot say enough about this so I’m just going to shut up now before I get even more long-winded

TL;DR: Women can’t be equal to men if womanly is the opposite of manly; boy is the opposite of man.

(Source : shaulguerreros)